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Anybody Else Remember the Aluminum Christmas Tree?

When we moved to South Sprigg Street in the late 50′s, the new fad for Christmas at that time was the ALUMINUM CHRISTMAS TREE. We had one.

Aluminum Christmas Tree

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We also had the light that sat next to it on the floor that shone on the tree to change the color from red to green to blue.

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Any of you who grew up in the 50′s and 60′s are probably familiar with this type of tree. When I was a kid I thought it was cool. Now it sort of makes me laugh. It kinda’ looks like somebody went nuts with the Reynolds Wrap and a pair of scissors. But it was the “in” thing at the time. I think maybe those trees are making a come-back now, since the “in” thing now is to be “retro”. I guess maybe I am rather “retro” now too come to think of it – old, out of style, but interesting and cool.

I think we must have moved from Fairview Place to South Sprigg close to Christmas time because I was immediately added to a children’s choir at May Greene School to sing Christmas songs for the Christmas Program. I didn’t know any of the words to the songs and did not have time to learn them before the program was held. The music teacher just assumed that everyone knew the familiar Christmas songs. The night of the Christmas program I felt rather awkward, pretending I knew the words to the songs with the gym full of families and teachers watching. My lip-syncing did not match the music at all except on some of the choruses.

When we moved to South Sprigg Street, I began to attend Southside Baptist Church along with other kids from the neighborhood in those days. As I wrote in an earlier article, Charlie Dietiker picked us up on Sunday mornings and took us to church in his panel van. (Charlie Dietiker, Grocery Store Owner) There was a Christmas play every year and a visit from Santa. Santa gave each of us kids a stocking with an orange and some candy inside. But I wasn’t buying the Santa Claus thing.

I knew that Santa was a fake. I had figured that out long ago because the presents under the tree labeled “From Santa” were written in my mother’s hand-writing.

I still remember the moment I figured that out (I think I was about 5 or 6 yrs old). I was rather shocked to find out that my mother had been deceiving me about Santa. But, of course, I didn’t say anything because I was afraid I would quit getting Christmas presents. But, that discovery got me to thinking, “I wonder about some other stories Mom has told me.” Well, from there my child logic went like this:

  • Santa isn’t real. Mom just says he is real.
  • We never see him deliver the gifts.
  • He can see me when I’m sleeping or awake (yeah, right), he knows if I’ve been good or bad (right) and that’s how he decides if I get presents. (OK, so that little trick to get me to be good is over)

So from there my mind started going over my list of who was just make-believe, besides Santa. “Who else has Mom told me is real but that I have never seen?” Well, a few came to mind:

  • the Tooth Fairy (I could have sworn I saw her one night)
  • the Easter Bunny
  • Jesus

From then on I had all of those invisible characters categorized into one slot in my mind, “Made-Up Stories that we pretend are true”. I went along with the game. But I knew it was just all pretend.

Now it wouldn’t really have mattered so much knowing that Santa,  the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny were not real but losing my belief in Jesus was critical. It wasn’t until I was 25 years old that I came to believe in His existence again. It was Christmas time 1975 that I regained that knowledge. That year, Christmas was magical again. All of a sudden, that year it seemed that my eyes were opened to a reality that had been right under my nose for years.

Instead of being all wrapped up in Santa and presents and Christmas parties (actually drunken binges), the Christmas of 1975 seemed different than any other Christmas I had ever experienced in my entire life. There were many events that led to the change in my perspective of Christmas that year, which I will not attempt to explain in this post. To put it briefly, I decided to believe in Jesus again and I was looking at the holiday as a celebration of His birthday, which, as a matter of fact, it most certainly is.

Christmas has been magical for me ever since then. Although I do use a fake Christmas tree, the One whose birthday I celebrate is not fake nor pretend. And, by the way, I raised my kids pretending that Santa came with the presents but made sure they knew that it was pretend. They learned about St. Nicholas who was definitely a real person who loved Jesus and who was so generous with his gifts that the tradition of gift-giving began.

Merry Christmas to all of you! I hope that Christmas was magical for you this year and will always be so for you.

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My Pet Chicken and His/Her Early Demise (Update 12/9/11: New Info Reported)

 

Ken Steinhoff’s article today about chickens (click here to read his article) brought back memories of the pet chicken I had when I was living on South Sprigg Street. Many of you have heard me tell this story so many times that you are sick of it. However, I am once again going to tell the story so, if you already have it memorized, you can just skip this post. (I have this sneaking suspicion that I will probably regret ever posting this article due to the unseemly comments that may will come forth from some of my family & friends–you know who you are. Be careful, because I may know a story or two about you too.)

Chickens were a big part of my life when we lived with Grandma on Cedar Lane. I was scared to death of them because they flogged me every time I went near the chicken house. And, at that time, I wasn’t much taller than they were so they seemed really dangerous with those beaks and claws coming at me. I would hold my hands over my face to get through the attacking fowl and into the chicken house to see if there were any eggs in the nests.

I did get my revenge on them on butchering day but that’s  a different story and a different place. The chicken I will write about today was my own personal pet chicken when we lived on South Sprigg. I loved that chicken.

When I lived on Sprigg Street with my mom, step-dad, and younger brothers, Mark and Jack, we only had 1 chicken and it was my own personal pet. Here’s how I happened to acquire my fine feathered friend, whose name I will tell you later.

Aunt Lela and Uncle Clarence were coming to visit. It was a long drive from their home in Clarence MO (near Hannibal) down to Cape.  As they were traveling to our house in Cape there was an accident on the highway. I don’t know the details of the accident. All I know is that a truckload of chickens was involved and there were chickens running loose. My Uncle Clarence, being born and raised a farmer, jumped out of the car and ran to capture one of the chickens, put it in his car and brought it to me for a pet. I was thrilled. I carried that chicken around in my arms and “loved on it”(as much as a chicken will allow “loving on”). If my chicken got out of my sight I would go out in the yard and yell for it. The neighbors would be out on their porches laughing at me trying to get that chicken to come to me. (I didn’t find out until 9th grade why they found that so comical)

My pet chicken laid eggs on the sidewalk. We never got to eat one of her eggs because, of course, the shell would crack when it hit the sidewalk. What a crazy chicken!

There came a day when my pet chicken was nowhere to be found. I searched the neighborhood calling for it but it never came. While we were eating supper I mentioned that my chicken was missing. Nobody said anything. They just looked down at their plates. I looked down at my plate and then suddenly it dawned on me…we were having fried chicken! I was horrified. As an adult I can laugh about it (sort of) but as a child I was heart-broken and I looked at my family as heartless cannibals for a long time after that. I still don’t think we should have eaten that chicken. It didn’t bother me to eat chicken….in fact, I loved fried chicken, but….THIS chicken trusted me. I carried that chicken around with me all the time. And it was, after all, a gift from Uncle Clarence. How dare they? Note: I probably should have had some kind of treatment for PTSD at the time but that disorder hadn’t been invented yet :)

As Radio Personality Paul Harvey Used to Say: “Now for the rest of the story:”

(This is the real kicker!!)

Years later, as a 9th Grader, I was sitting in Citizenship class at the new Junior High daydreaming, as usual. My thoughts wandered back to that pet chicken and the day Uncle Clarence brought him to me. I remembered Uncle Clarence placing that chicken lovingly into my arms. Then I remembered that chicken pecking my hand. I recalled that it kinda’ hurt. THEN, I REMEMBERED WHAT I HAD NAMED THAT CHICKEN (which was, by the way a HEN, not a rooster). Right then and there I named that chicken “Pecker” because it “pecked” me. No wonder the neighbors were falling off their porches laughing when I yelled for him/her. Now why didn’t somebody tell me that my name choice was inappropriate? I guess they must have been enjoying the entertainment so much that they didn’t want to spoil it. Now that I think of it, I wonder what they said when “Pecker” started laying eggs on the sidewalk.

Come to think of it, that may be why he/she suffered an untimely death. Maybe I was embarrassing the family when I went all over the neighborhood yelling “PECKER, COME HERE PECKER!!” (Oh, the shame of it all! Laughing-stock of the South Sprigg neighborhood)

Update 12/9/2011:

New Clues Reported by an Eyewitness of the crime – my brother, Mark, has brought new evidence to my attention regarding the untimely death of my pet chicken. Here is his statement:

“You could be right on the embarassment factor. If I remember right you also invited a pastor, who was going door to door visiting the neighborhood, to go around the side of the house to see your pet “Pecker”. Mom was talking to him at the time at the front door and went speechless. It wasn’t but a few days later that we had the best fried chicken!”

Mystery solved! It was that preacher’s fault!

 

 

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A Tree Tried to Kill Me

One of my favorite places to be when I was a kid was in a tree. One of my neighborhood friends had a pretty good climbing tree. One summer day I climbed up on the biggest branch I could find and proceeded to hang like a monkey with my arms and legs wrapped around that branch.

What I didn’t know was that the branch I was hanging from was actually deader than a doornail. Not long after I got myself positioned in my monkey pose, I heard a cracking sound. The branch I was hanging from broke off and I began to fall. Then I blacked out and don’t remember exactly what happened, until I woke up with my friends gathered around looking at me. They told me that the branch had broken off and that I had landed on my back with the branch on top of me. It must have knocked the breath out of me for a short time. Once I came to, I was fine and went back to playing.

That would be the end of the story except for the following details:

Next thing I know my mother arrives all out of breath from running over to my friend’s house. When I fell my brother Mark was there. He saw me blacked out on the ground and thought I was dead. He ran home and told mom I was dead!

Now I need to fill in some more details to explain why my mother was almost hysterical that day when she arrived at my friend’s house to retrieve “my body”.

There was a neighborhood girl who lived just a couple of doors from me. She never came out to play with the rest of  us kids for some reason. I guess her mom probably didn’t allow it. Now for some unknown reason, she had a grudge against me. I have no idea why because we had never so much as spoken to each other.

The day I fell out of the tree, that particular girl had decided to pay me back for whatever it was she was angry about. So, she called many phone numbers and sent many vehicles to my house, one of which was an ambulance. I wasn’t even home, so I had no idea that this was happening.

Evidently the ambulance must have arrived around the same time that Mark came running home all out of breath

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screaming, “Help!! Darla’s dead!” My poor mother thought that the ambulance was there for me. And she believed Mark when he told her I had fallen out of a tree and that I was dead.

By the time Mom and Mark ran the half block to where I was, I had recovered and was just fine. I thought my mom was going to pass out right in front of my eyes. Once she recovered and realized that I was OK, she was fit to be tied! She proceeded to tell me how all of these different vehicles had been arriving at our house, a taxi cab, a typewriter salesman, and most importantly, an ambulance. I don’t remember how many other people had come to our house and I also can’t remember how we found out who had called all of them.

In any case, it was one of the strangest coincidences I have ever experienced and it does make for a good story, don’t you think? Well, anyway, that was the day a tree tried to kill me, but I survived in spite of it. And it didn’t stop me from climbing every tree I could find either. But I did start checking the branches before hanging upside down on them :)

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His Name Was Mr. Jesse Harris

I posted an article last month about a man called Sam, who often walked through the old South Sprigg neighborhood. He was the subject of false rumors spread by the adults who lived there, simply because he was a black man. Here is a link to that article: http://spriggstreet.net/2011/10/09/does-anyone-remember-a-man-named-sam/

Gary Wren, a former schoolmate and reader of this blog, saw that article and was thoughtful enough to fill in some of the blanks about the man called Sam. First, his name was Mr. Jesse Harris. His nickname was Slim, not Sam.

The best news Gary provided was that Mr. Jesse Harris loved God and that he was, in fact a very kind man who had had a very rough life. He lived to be 100 years old and is buried in St. Mary’s Cemetery at Cape Girardeau, MO. He died in 1975 and, although he appeared to be extremely poor, he left his church $35,000 (a huge sum in 1975 when candy bars cost a nickel).

Thank you, Gary, for answering some of the questions that I never thought I would know the answers to. This information gives me hope that I may still one day meet Mr. Jesse Harris and give him the respect he should have received while he was living.

Not Mr. Jesse Harris, but resembles him.

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A Mosquito Bite Made an Invalid Out of Me (Temporarily)

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The summer I turned 11, a health problem developed involving my blood and my kidneys. It all started out with a mosquito bite on my ankle. It itched, I scratched it, and of course the skin was broken and a sore appeared. Being a kid who lived within a block or 2 from the Mississippi back-waters, and having had multitudes of mosquito bites, it was no big deal.

Somehow this particular mosquito bite became a big deal. I suspect that the problem began when I went wading in a creek over at Olive Branch, Illinois, while visiting my cousins. We loved to wade in the creek across from their house to look for craw-dads and minnows. I don’t know for sure the source of the water and streams running into that creek, but back then there were no regulations regarding pollution. The open sore on my ankle was a prime target for germs and bacteria.

When I got home from visiting my cousins, Mom noticed that my ankle was swelled and that I was limping a little. She didn’t notice the open sore and assumed that I had somehow sprained my ankle. To give my ankle extra support, she put one of those thick, tan-colored ankle supports on my ankle. It stayed on my ankle for several days, maybe even a week, I don’t remember.

Meanwhile, underneath the support bandage, the mosquito bite had turned into an infected open wound, unbeknownst to me. I really didn’t pay that much attention to the situation.

Around this same time, I had noticed that my urine had turned a pretty pink color and did not realize that this was not a good sign. I just liked the pink color and did not mention it to anyone. As the days went by, the pink got darker and eventually turned a dark red. Still, I was not alarmed and did not make any mention of it.

One day I went into the bathroom and forgot to flush before leaving the bathroom. My mom went in immediately after me and then came back out and asked me about what she had just seen in the bathroom. I told her that that was the color of my urine. She immediately called a doctor and he told her to bring me over to his office right away.

We went to Dr. Seabaugh’s office (Russell Seabaugh, I think). He took one look at the urine specimen we brought in and told Mom to take me straight to the hospital and not to stop at home to get pajamas.

It turned out that, according to the doctor, that sore on my ankle was the source of the problem. It had become infected and then, being covered up, was not able to heal from the inside out; so, the infection entered my bloodstream causing blood poisoning. From there, the infection spread over my body through my bloodstream, and landed in the most susceptible part of my body, my kidneys. I was diagnosed with acute nephritis, an inflammation of the kidneys.

Nowadays, an antibiotic would be given and the patient would be right back to normal within a short time, a few weeks maybe. But, back then, it was a totally different story. I was given sulfa drug, put on a salt-free diet, and restricted to bed-rest indefinitely, with absolutely no physical activity. I was not allowed to attend school for the entire school year – 6th grade

While I was in the hospital, I didn’t really feel all that bad, so I was up running around the halls bare-footed. The nurses were always sending me back to my room but I really didn’t want to stay put. After all the tests were finished Dr. Seabaugh came in one day and wanted to talk to me and my mom about what they had determined the problem was and what the prognosis was. I think maybe he wanted to get across to me how important it was that I be on complete bed-rest and follow all his directions in order to get well. He told me that there were 3 possible outcomes of the disease: 1. complete recovery, 2. chronic nephritis which I would have for the rest of my life, or 3. death. He assured me that he believed that I could completely recover IF I complied with his directions. When he put it that way, you better believe I was going to do whatever he said!

So, I stayed in my bed, I ate no salt, I took my medicine, and I rested for an entire year. And I was scared…..every night I would pull the covers up over my head and beg God to let me live. I promised Him that if He let me live I would be good for the rest of my life. (He did let me live but I didn’t keep up my end of that bargain…..bargaining with God is useless I found out later in life. Once I was better, I did try hard to be good, but failed miserably.)

As you may imagine, in a year’s time, I became as weak as a wet noodle. I couldn’t even walk from my bedroom to the kitchen without great difficulty. My recovery was extremely slow and I was isolated from the rest of the world for the most part.

Since I was not allowed to attend school during 6th grade(1961-62), a teacher was assigned to come to my home and give me my school lessons. Her name was Mrs. Slinkard. She was a very heavy-set woman who struggled to get up the steep flight of stairs in front of our house. I suppose she was middle-aged, because she had some gray hair. Her hair was cut short and she always wore a house dress, as most women did in those days. She had a very pleasant personality, and was a gentle soul. She and I became close and she spoiled me by bringing me gifts. She would often bring me cookies from the bakery and once she brought me candy made from maple syrup that she had bought when she went on vacation to another state. I looked forward to her visits. She didn’t come every day, maybe once or twice a week.

Mrs. Slinkard loved me and I loved her. My step-father had a dislike for Mrs. Slinkard. He always treated her nice to her face, but would call her names and make fun of her when she was on her way up the stairs to our front door or on her way back down the stairs when she left. He would also pretend to kick her in the rear end when she was going out the door. Of course she did not realize this because she had her back to him. (I seethed with anger silently every time this occurred, which was every time Mrs. Slinkard came to our house. I was too afraid of the consequences to confront him about it though. )

While I was on bed rest for the year of 1961-62, I listened to the radio -  KXOK St. Louis, MO. Johnny Rabbitt was the famous deejay for that station. I can still remember the station jingle: ♫Kay-ay-ay-ex-oh-kay-ay, Saint Lou-iss, Mizz-oor-ee♫. I listened to that transistor radio all day every day and into the night. If anybody wants to know the words to any hit rock n roll song of 1961 0r 62, just ask me. I memorized every word to every song that was played on that station for that entire year. If I could be guaranteed only questions about those songs, I could win Who Wants to Be a Millionaire easily. Unfortunately, this vast knowledge is pretty useless except for when I am with my buddies from Cape and we are doing the oldies but goodies sing-along. (Yes, I am talking about you, Patty Turner, and Donna Niemeier, my old dancing buddies) But I digress. Back to my sick bed story.

My mom’s old boss from Deneke Drug (on Broadway) had a daughter named Joy. At one time in the past we had lived in the summer house on their property at Fairview Place, aka Estesbrook (private drive). Joy had a set of Nancy Drew mystery books which she loaned to me while I was bed-ridden and I read an entire book every day. I was crazy about those stories and soon finished the entire series.

I learned how to paint by number and how to embroidery that year also. My mother purchased a china tea set (which I still have in my closet) for me that year and she served me my meals in those teeny, tiny dishes. I thought that was just about as good as it got having my very own set of dishes. They were so attractive too, with pink roses painted on them. I actually had a salt & pepper shaker that were about an inch long. Of course I couldn’t use the salt shaker since it was doctor’s orders that I eat no salt. Mom made sure that none of my food was salted when she was cooking.

I had a baton that I had found in a creek back at Fairview Place and I knew how to twirl it. During the year that I was supposed to be on bed-rest, I also would twirl that baton. Now I did it lying down so I thought that made it ok, but, alas, my baton disappeared when I was caught by my grandmother.

When summer came the doctor allowed me to lie outside in a lounge chair, then gradually  to take short walks. At first I had to stay in my own yard, but, eventually I was allowed to go for a walk down the alley 1 block. I was able to go back to school beginning in the 7th grade. For the next 4 years, I was allowed to attend school but was not allowed to eat salt and had to continue the medication.  P.E. was not allowed until I was 14 or 15.

Even while I was recovering from this illness there was both physical and emotional abuse at home. My mother was working every day but my step-father was a construction worker who was often on unemployment. Even when he had work it was dependent on the weather since his work was outdoors. When he was home, he was drinking.

One day soon after I came home from the hospital he came to the doorway of my room with some envelopes that had just come in the mail. He had been drinking and said to me with a disgusted look on his face and a snarl on his lips, “I wish you would hurry up and die so I could quit paying these medical bills.”

His words terrified me. I remembered the doctor telling me that I could die from the disease I had. When my step-father said those words to me I came to the conclusion that I was going to die and that my mother was too afraid to tell me. Until the doctor allowed me to start taking walks I really thought that I was slowly dying. That was the real reason I put the blankets over my head every night and that was the real reason that I started trying to bargain with God to let me live.

When I began taking walks down the alley, I cannot put into words how thrilled I was! I had been allowed to live and I was so very thankful. I no longer took for granted being able to be outdoors and to see nature in all its glory. I started noticing things that I hadn’t paid any attention to before, like the sky and the trees, flowers, birds, all the beauty that had always been there but that I had not really seen. It was exhilarating to be back among the living!

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Does Anyone Remember a Man Named Sam?

Does anyone else from the Sprigg Street neighborhood remember an African-Amercan man named Sam? He had mostly white hair from what I could see, although he always had on a hat with a droopy brim. He always had a pole with a gunny sack tied to the end thrown over his shoulder. I am guessing that the gunny sack had most or all of his belongings in it. He wore an old suit that had seen its better days. I usually saw him on Ranney Street walking in the 1200 block, minding his own business. I have no idea where he was going, if he lived in the area, or if he was one of the men who occasionally got off the train….my mom called them hobos. If he was a hobo, he must have come to Cape frequently because I remember seeing him on several occasions, always on Ranney Street. He walked as though he was on his way someplace, not just wandering aimlessly. He was never in a rush, just walking by at a measured steady pace.

We had hobos come to our house on Sprigg Street once in a while and knock on the door. My mother would always cook them something to eat and they would sit on the front step, eat their meal, then leave. I don’t think Sam ever came to our door though.

Some people called Sam by a racist name which I don’t wish to use. The reader can probably guess what word it was but I won’t publish it. I will instead call him Mr. Sam. There was a vicious story told about Mr. Sam back in those days which now I recognize as an outright lie but which I thought was true at the time because adults were the ones repeating it. It was this: Mr. Sam stole little children. That’s what he had in that sack on the end of his pole…….little children. Not just any little children though. Only little children who did not mind their parents. And Mr. Sam was going to take those little children home and eat them!

So, that was the threat……behave or your parents would call Mr. Sam to come get you. Like he was the boogy-man!

Now if that is not a purely evil made-up story then I have never heard one. Why on earth would anyone make up a horrible story to malign a man (most likely not an unkind man, by the expression I saw on his face) and to use that story to manipulate children to be good? If I could turn back time while at the same time knowing what I know now, I would say “Hi” to Mr. Sam next time he came walking by and smile at him and hope that he might smile back. Maybe I could have known him as a friend instead of running scared every time I saw him or every time someone said that they were going to call him to come get me. (Note: my mother never threatened to call him and she never called him by that name.)

I am quite certain that Mr. Sam is long gone from this world but I still wish I knew who he was and what his life was like…..did he live near? Did he have children? What kind of work did he do? Could he sing or play a musical instrument? What had his life been like? Would he have told stories? Would he have liked to have me as his friend?

I will never know the answer to most, if not all, of these questions. To me it is so sad that he was maligned without ever having deserved it, just minding his own business, probably doing the best he could to get by. This is yet another regret for me from those days…..a missed opportunity, a blessing missed possibly, both for him and for me. Maybe I would have learned important lessons from him. Maybe we would have laughed out loud together at stories he might have told.

If anyone reading this post has any idea who Mr. Sam was or anything about him, please leave me a comment or email me at spriggstreet@hotmail.com

I would be so grateful to know more about him.

P.S. I found an image that looks a lot like Mr. Sam by doing a Google search. The image is from another blog called Grumpy Old Ken. Here is a link to an interesting and entertaining story on his blog: Spring Hath Sprung. Here is the image:

 

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Jack Kennedy Maupin – born 1960

The following article was written by my younger brother, Mark, at my request. Thanks, Mark, for this article about our baby brother, Jack (aka Jackie Boo-Boo).

This was taken at 1240 South Sprigg Street, Cape Girardeau, Missouri. Not sure of the date, Jack looks older, maybe it was taken in 1963 or 64. Now he drives a real fire truck!

My sister, Darla, asked me to write an article or two for her blog on memories about growing up on Sprigg street in Cape Girardeau in the late 1950s and early 1960s.  This is a reluctant attempt at my first one.  Everyone tells me that I write just like I talk, so this should be short, grammatically challenged and uninteresting to most.

This one is for my brother, Jack Maupin who still lives in Cape.  I must start by saying that I am proud to be his brother.  He may be the youngest of us siblings but all of us in the family have a lot of respect for him.  He has many character traits that I wish I had.

Jack was born in 1960 when I was 7 years old and we lived on Sprigg.  As Darla has mentioned in her previous blogs, sometimes home life was a little rough.  That is where Jack comes in.  I was so excited to have a younger brother and to be an older brother.  What I noticed immediately was that there was a lot less attention being paid to me and more to him and it may not make much sense but I liked it that way.

I just wanted peace and acceptance and Jack was helping me with both!  Less attention on me meant more peace.  No matter what I did or what somebody else thought of me, I could do no wrong in his eyes, a gift of acceptance.  It wasn’t until later in life that I found the true source of peace and acceptance but that is another story.  I was really confused as a young boy and wanted desperately to move to be with my father.  Surely that would bring peace and acceptance.  Often when you find yourself in that kind of situation in life you are looking for anything that brings hope and normalcy to your life, an anchor.  At that time, for me at home, that was Jack.

When we got older, Jack expressed his sadness and sorrow with the way my step-father (his father) was to me and Darla in our childhood and apologized.  He thought when I did move away to be with my father, that in some way I was mad at him, when in reality the hardest thing about moving was leaving him.  It brings tears to my eyes even now when I think about it.  Why, because of how kind and thoughtful Jack has been, willing to try and assume guilt that wasn’t his.   It humbles me that he would even think that way.  He was assuming guilt when in my eyes he was totally guilt free, never wanting anything bad to happen to me.

I have not spoken these words to Jack.  Don’t think I could get all of the words out.  I know this wasn’t a lot about Sprigg Street and sorry if it bored you, but this is for my brother Jack, who I love and respect!  The most important event that ever happened to me on Sprigg Street.  Everybody should have such a brother!

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The Dillinghams and Watching The Beatles on Ed Sullivan

The Dillinghams were another surrogate family to me. I had such great times with them especially in the summertime. The father, Galvin, was a truck driver who drove all week and was home on weekends most of the time. The mother, Earline, was a stay at home mom. Earline was a sweet lady who always had a slight smile on her lips. She was like most of the baby boomer moms in that she kept that house sparkling clean and always prepared hearty meals for her family.

I was friends with Diane, the middle child of three. Carolyn was the oldest, and Timmy was the youngest.

The Dillinghams loved to camp and Galvin loved to fish. In the summertime they would invite me to come with them on their camping vacations. We had the best times on those trips. Since Galvin was a fisherman, we always went to where the fishing was good. Back then, the fishing spot was also the swimming spot for the kids, near the shore in the shallower water. I don’t have real clear memories of all the places we went but, for sure, they were some of the best memories of my early adolescence. I recall being at a place called Whitewater, where the water was so clear you could see all the way to the bottom perfectly. We also went to a place called Wolf Lake near Cape on the Illinois side of the river. Oh, and also Wappapella. I have no idea where Wappapella is. They were a loving family and there was never any hint of violence, which I was trying desperately to avoid at all costs. They lived several blocks north of my house, also on Sprigg Street, past Womack Drug Store, one of our favorite hang-outs.

One of my most vivid memories of being at the Dillinghams was the night the Beatles appeared on the Ed Sullivan Show for the first time (their first appearance in the US I think). Diane and I were in her bedroom with a little portable black & white TV. We practically had our faces on the screen, we were sitting so close. And, just like the girls in Ed Sullivan’s TV audience, we were screaming and throwing our hands up in the air just as soon as they started singing. I can’t remember if the first song was I Wanna Hold Your Hand or She Loves You, but both songs were definite screamers. When they sang the slow love songs, we swooned, of course. The Beatles and their music was the topic of every pre-teen and early teen-age girl’s conversation for a really long time. Each girl chose her favorite Beatle; Paul McCartney, John Lennon, George Harrison, or Ringo Starr. There were cards with their pictures on them. They were the same size as baseball cards, perfect to fit in a billfold. Handy to pull out and swoon over.

Those were our Happy Days at the Dillinghams! Great memories!

For photos of Cape kids watching The Beatles movie Help at the theatre, go to Ken Steinhoff’s site, Cape Central High. Here is a link to his article: They Have Vampires; We Had Beatles

H/T: Ken Steinhoff

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‘Living in Smelterville’ Written by a Reader of Sprigg Street Memories

Mississippi River Flood 1927, Hamburg, Louisiana

American Environmental Photographs Collection, [AEP Image Number, e.g., AEP-MIN73], Department of Special Collections, University of Chicago Library.

The above photo, although not taken in Cape, looks familiar to those who lived in or near Smelterville. The main difference between what I remember and what is depicted in this photo taken in Louisiana in 1927 is the fact that there were more houses situated closer together in Smelterville.

I received the following information via email from a person who wishes to remain anonymous. It was not submitted as an article for the blog but was just a private email between myself and the writer. With the writer’s permission, I am sharing it with my readers as coming from the viewpoint of someone else who lived just a short distance from my home on South Sprigg Street in Cape Girardeau, Missouri:

I remember when the river started raising and people from “uptown” would come down and point and gawk at the way we were living and how we would almost stay hidden until the river was back in its banks so no one I went to jr. high or high school would see us.  The few times I was seen brought on sly looks or comments at school.  I think I understand the feelings that black people felt in being rejected for something you had no control over such as the color of their skin and in my case where I lived.  I remember the jokes at school during the floods as the “rich kids” would make stupid remarks to each other about “moving out” of Smelterville during the floods.  That has never left me after all these years.
I found your blog via Ken Steinhoff’s newsletter and it brought back many thoughts, memories and feelings.  I too grew up off of South Sprigg Street in what was called Smelterville in the 50′s and 60′s.  As you stated I too had mixed feelings about the racial division.  Some of the kindest people I ever met were black neighbors I saw and talked with on a daily basis.  Also some of the laziest immoral people were black people also.  Saying that, I turn around and say the same thing about some of the white people I met on a daily basis.  There was a brothel run from a white lady’s house just a block from our house.  What I am saying is that people cannot be judged to be either good or bad by the color of their skin.  My mother and father lived all of their adult life in the same neighborhood with blacks and whites.  They admired some of the black people, but one of my mother’s sayings was “they should know their place.”    One time I remember her saying, “Now Mrs.——- knew her place, when a white person was walking down a sidewalk she would step aside to let you pass.”  I was so confused, I asked her why she should do that.  My mother was so surprised at my question and said, ‘Because she is black.”  That still didn’t answer my  question but I had enough sense to shut up after her answer.  But I kept my ears open after that.
I’ve seen a lot of bias against the black people but I also experienced a time around 1969 when there were a group of black people from Cairo (affiliated with the black panthers) who came to Cape with the intent to stir up trouble and that they did.  There were confrontations in stores, marches in front of a grocery store where the marchers would not let the “bag boy” by with the groceries he was carrying for a customer. That continued most of the day until the feeling became so volitile that a fight broke out.  The police were called and the marchers were taken to jail, only to be back in less than 2 hours, even more confrontational.  They marched (about 30 or more) into the grocery store where I worked and up and down every aisle,  with fists raised into the air shouting “Black Power”.  We had no idea where this was going and the police were called again and they were taken away just before the store was closed for the evening.  Needless to say there was heavy security for a while following this.  I was not against the black people as black people, but they scared many and when you use tactics like that you won’t win a popularity contest.
That whole year was one of conflict and turmoil.  As I said I lived in Smelterville and I had changed jobs from grocery to factory and worked the night shift.  I would come home at 12:30  and just get into bed when I would hear  a loud pop and a house would catch on fire sometimes 2-3 in one night.  My father along with a few other men sat up with their guns, afraid one of our houses would be next.  I guess we were luckier than Cairo because the “Black Panther” movement destroyed a once thriving city by scaring away all of the hard-working people and left the riff raff who ultimately let the city die.  Yes, I have some hard feelings against some blacks, the ones who think they can MAKE people change, but I have hard feelings about the KKK who teach the White supremacy hatred also.  I know many black people who I consider a friend, and I have a nephew who married a black girl.  I’m not afraid of them, but they don’t try to scare me into doing their will. Will there ever really be a time when we won’t look at a person’s skin first and then decide whether to smile and say Hello?
The 1960′s were a troublesome time for our entire country.
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